Friday, December 27, 2019

Zuo Yue Zi: One Month Inside

I knew when I was pregnant that I would want to spend my first month of motherhood the way Chinese women do: by observing Zuo Yuezi. Literally meaning “to sit for a month” this is ancient post-partum practice of staying home and resting for 30 days after birth. The idea is that it take this long for a woman’s body to heal post-childbirth and that putting too much strain o n your body too soon after birth can create lifelong complication. 

The basic tenants state that a woman must stay inside, keep warm, and only eat certain foods. While that seems simple enough, there are some parts of the traditional practice which are very impractical and downright counterintuitive. For instance, here are a few Zuo Yuezi mandates I purposely skipped:
  • Refrain from taking showers (way to unhygienic)
  • Refrain from Brushing teeth (not a good idea for my cavity-prone teeth)
  • Exclusive Bed rest (I definitely got up to cook and do light chores)
  • Don't read
  • Don’t TV
  • Don’t climb stairs (impossible in my house)
  • Don’t carry the baby
  • Don’t look at a computer screen (yeah right)

The part about showers and teeth has to do with water, and the idea that water makes the body cold and women should not be cold during this time. I understand how this might have made sense in rural China 100 years ago but with hot running water at home there is no reason to make myself so dirty for such a long time. The other parts of the practice have to do with resting the body and allowing it to heal, but it seemed excessive to me. Of course I want to hold my baby and refraining from reading or looking at a computer just felt weird.

So despite skipping a few of the rules, I did pretty much follow the below mandates of Zuo Yuezi:
  • Drink only hot liquids and eating only hot foods (well, room temperature)
  • Do not leaving the house (well, except for Doctor’s appointments – these were essential!)
  • Eat lots of meat and veggies
  • Keep your body warm with thick clothes
  • Bind your belly to bring it back to shape
  • Limited visitors

There were a few great things that happened with my post-partum time. By Day 10 I had lost all 20 lbs that I gained during pregnancy.  The food I ate made me feel health and gave me energy for long nights of nursing a newborn.

Whether the Zuo Yuei diet was solely responsible for the weight loss and energy I can’t say for sure, but the practice did have some downsides too: I got major cabin fever after week three. I really missed adult contact, as I pretty much only saw my partner and family at this time, and I got on a really bad sleep schedule, often sleeping in until 12:00 or 1:00pm.

But now that I'm three months postpartum writing about this period I think the practices was a good experience overall. After the month ended I overindulged in ice cream and sugary foods that I missed, and overextended myself physically with long meetings for work. I have no regrets about doing Zuo Yuezi, but wish I didn’t totally blow my health diet or periods of rest on Day 31. 

Maybe the secret is not total abstinence for one month, but rather moderation for two or three...

Tuesday, December 17, 2019

2020 is the Year of the Planner

Hello Readers!

After nearly a 6-month break from blogging, I owe an explanation. 

My excuse:

I'm a mom now! 

What an amazing journey this has been. 

But what does it mean for this blog?

Well, not much. 

You will be relieved to know that I won't be morphing it into a blog of baby updates or parenting advice. This platform will still continue to highlight my travelers, musings, and artistic creations, though, my new change in life circumstance means that I haven't been doing much traveling, musing, or creating these days, so the frequency of posts will decrease. 

As always, content is not created in a vacuum, and because I regularly post about my life and learning, you will see my daughter make a cameo here and there as she is now a big part of my life and learning. 

However, this post will not be about her debut into this world or the dramatic change that took place when I became a mother almost one year ago...

This post will be about...planners. 

Because as 2020 approaches, I've been obsessed with planners. 

For the last 12 years I have regularly documented all the happenings of my life: relationships that have begun and ended, travels, moves, new and old jobs. For a long time all this information was contained in a single planner, but now that my life has become more complex (not just with my baby but also my business) I now require not 1 - but 3 - planners to keep track of it all. 

Here is how that looks. 

1. Delfonics: Life Planner

I've been using Delfonics as my main planner for the last 10 years. Until this year, they could only be purchased in Japan - not even online from a Japanese website. So it was impossible to get one unless I had a trip planned, and only if that trip was in the last 6 months of the year, because they didn't release their new planners until then. 8 out of 10 years I was able to make it to Japan to get this planner. One year I was in Taipei, and I bought a Leuchtturm planner, which I didn't care for, and another year I ordered a Volt journal. At the time, I swore I would not use Volt again, but as you will see, the planner makes a come back in 2020 (more on that later). 

Why I love Delfonics is because of the layout. On the left side of the page, I record my appointments and happenings. On the right side I record my task list (though that will change this year). 

I also use Delfonic's monthly layout to record my finances, as well as my travel schedule. 

For 2020 I was able to order this stylish Delfonics planner online from the Delfonics website. They only ship within Japan, so I had it mailed to a friend and she mailed it to me. It took this company 10 years to get online, so hopefully in one more year they can do worldwide shipping.

This year Delfonics will be used exclusively for my appointments, finances, and personal happenings. 

2. Volt Journal: Business Goal Planner

I used Volt as my main journal in 2018 and was unhappy with the weekly layout. I told myself I would not use it again (and went right back to Delfonics), but as my business grew and my schedule and tasks became more complex, I began to miss Volt. Their layout really focuses on Goals, with Yearly Goals, Monthly Goals, and Weekly Goals. I found the focus on goals really helped me, as opposed to the endless to-do lists I usually create.

I decided to give Volt another go in 2020, where I will use it to track my goals, but instead of recording appointments on the weekly layout pages, I will use those to keep track of my daily to-do lists that support my Weekly Goals. 

I will also use the monthly layout for my communications calendar (social media and article publishing). 

In this way, Volt will become my work planner. 

3. Rollbahn: Travel Planner

Rollbahn is also made by Delfonics and has been around for years, but it took me a while to warm up to this notebook...

1. I hate spirals
2. I hate yellow pages
3. I hate grids

So why on earth did I buy a yellow, grid, spiral notebook? Because Rollbahn is awesome. Once you touch it, once you open it, you truly never want to use another notebook. 
I plan to use Rollbahn for my travel planner. Whenever I'm on the road, I like to keep a small notebook with me to record observations, notes, to-dos, etc. I have used a multitude of blank journals over the years, and I prefer Rollbahn to them all for a few reasons:

1. I can fold one side completely under the other (hence the benefit of a spiral)
2. The pages are thick enough to write on both side without seeing the ink through
3. The grid helps me keep my notes formed

In 2020 I have a lot of short business trips planned and I look forward to using Rollbahn through them all! 

Well, that's my planner plan for 2020. And for those of you who were hoping for more photos of my baby...stay tuned. 

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